It’s 2018: Isn’t the ideas of ‘masculine’ and ‘feminine’ energy outdated? Or politically incorrect, at the very least?
But get your head out of the sex and gender gutter for a minute. When I talk about these two types of energy, I’m not really talking about man or woman, or husband and wife, or boy and girl. It’s more about your personal expression of creative energy. I know the term “personal expression of creative energy” sounds a little hokey. But stick with me for a minute while I explain the two types of energies:
Masculine energy is made of straight lines and angles. It’s goal-oriented, to the point, competitive and direct, while feminine energy is more curvy and swirly. It’s rooted in intuition and feelings. Feminine energy is fast and energetic. Masculine energy is slow and kind of dull. Feminine energy can do 50,000 things all at once, where as masculine energy moves in a straight line from point A to point B.
Having 100 percent masculine energy would make for a pretty lame and cold person to hang out with. And having 100 percent feminine energy would probably be pretty overwhelming and overbearing. So having both types of energy—a balance of the two—is pretty valuable in life.
The point is we all have some masculine and some feminine energy (we probably wouldn't have any friends if we’re 100 percent masculine or feminine), but most likely one of the two types of energies is more prevalent in your personality, while the other one is weaker. And it’s the weaker one that you have to consciously work on, just like weakness training in the gym.
You probably know which energy is your dominant one, and which one is lacking, and it shows up in various facets of life. Have you ever been accused of being too abrupt in your emails, for example? Maybe your feminine energy needs tapping into. Ever feel like you’re wandering aimlessly without a goal? Your masculine energy probably could use a little more nurturing.
The point is, when you understand how to balance out your energies, you’ll find yourself better able to relate and connect with various types of people, you’ll be more present in the moment, people will probably like you more, and you’ll just be a more balanced human being. Some people describe the experience of balancing their energies as liberating.
Here are some suggestions about how to work on your weaker energy:
Short on feminine energy?
Try taking up dancing—be it ballroom dancing, hip-hop or ballet. Sign up for a figure skating, pottery, painting or photography class. Join a team or activity where you have to work in collaboration with other people. Be authentic and vulnerable and stop trying to be so perfect all the time. You have to put yourself out there and it will definitely feel uncomfortable. That's when you know your tapping into that feminine energy.
Short on masculine energy?
Keep coming to the gym! Lift weights (Maybe even grunt a little?). Pick up a martial art. Take on a new competitive challenge, and set a goal for yourself in the process. Start that small business you’ve always been thinking about. And take the time to unplug and spend some time alone. Be a little more strict and fight the urge of distraction.
As the saying goes, life is all about balance…